Why Garrett’s Closed Adoption Didn’t Stay Closed
Garrett was placed in a closed adoption. His birth mother was 14 years old and not mature enough or comfortable with making connections with adoptive parents.When Garrett was 18 years…
How to Tell My Child They’re Adopted
Secrets suggest there is something to hide.Why would you hide adoption from your child?Therefore, when people ask, “How do I tell my child they’re adopted?” we respond.You tell them about…
Maybe Every Lie Isn’t Dangerous: Why Honesty About Adoption Matters
I’m not shaming parents for the lies they tell their children. For example: Acceptable lie. “When the bedroom door is locked at night, it’s because Mommy and Daddy are wrapping…
Personal Questions About Adopted Children–CAREFUL
New parents get questions.Often intrusive questions.How long was your labor?Was this baby planned?Did you want a boy/girl?When adoptive parents get, the questions can get even more intrusive.What is wrong with…
How Valid is that Marshmallow Test With Children?
You know that iconic Stanford experiment that supposedly measured childhood willpower by telling the test subjects how eating the marshmallow was okay? BUT if they waited twenty minutes without eating…
Do You Know Your Real Family? Birth Moms, We Want Children to Know You
“Do you know your real family?” At every family Christmas gathering, one of Karla’s cousins would ask her, “Where is your real family? Are they going to send you presents?”…
Adopting Toddlers–Attachment Grew
Guest Blogger--Adoptive Father Adoption has always been something we knew we would pursue as we considered growing our family. Having been adopted by my father as a teen, I knew…