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Not Everyone Agrees–We Get It

This child should be placed where obstacles can be overcome.

Not everyone likes adoption agencies.

Not everyone agrees with adoption.

We know that.

And we know why.

We know there are unscrupulous things done to acquire and sell babies.

We know there are incidents where women are pressured into placing a baby they wanted to keep.

We know there are adoptees who have suffered horribly.

We are sorry.

We are truly sorry.

Yet every day we have calls from birth mothers who feel compelled to place. We don’t recruit. These situations come to us.

Their stories are gripping. They are varied. They are full of heartache. They are full of regret. They love their babies but feel incapable of parenting.

We NEVER even consider matching these women with a potential adoptive family until we, and the mother, are at ease with the plan.

Does this mean there won’t be pain? NO. There will be pain and regret and questions.

We provide ongoing support through the adoption and beyond.

There are rotten people in adoption. There are rotten people in churches. There are rotten people in corporations.

We wish it wasn’t so.

But when people suggest adoption should be done by volunteers and we shouldn’t pay adoptions workers, they don’t understand that there is nothing part time about taking care of women who are in such a complicated place in their lives.

We have women who work hard. They work hours and hours supporting frantic birth mothers.

Our team deals with scams.

In any given year there are numerous women who want to house and aren’t pregnant. Critics of adoption companies would say these women need help, and we should give that help.  Yes, they are in need of help and society has probably let them down. We get this. We get all of this.

We also recognize scams are part of every business. We see plenty.

We also get that our expectant mothers need to be supported in mental health appointments, continuing education appointments. They travel to us when it’s convenient for them. Women give birth in the dark of night and they need support. This all requires round-the-clock services from us.

Our workers need a livable wage, too. We do not work with an uneducated labor force. Besides dealing with birth mothers they must also:

  • Understand the legalities of adoption
  • Know where to access health services
  • Know where to access mental health services
  • Find and maintain housing options
  • Recognize financial availability
  • Find and access post-adoption opportunities for birth mothers
  • Understand home studies
  • Screen and re-screen adoptive families

 

We recognize the concerns surrounding adoptions. We try very hard to create something of grace through these concerns.

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