Not many generations ago, adoption was secret and often considered shameful for both the birth mother and the adoptive child. In loving consideration for this “shame,” adoptive parents habitually attempted to hide the adoption from the community as well as the child. Secret keeping, of course, is always a recipe for disaster since human beings…

Ours was a closed adoption.  We were first foster parents for our little 5-week-old boy, knowing he may soon become adoptable.  His birth mother was placing him for adoption, but the government of Guam was intent on finding someone within his extended family to adopt him. 

Hello! My name is Rebekah. I am 39 years old and I am a birth mother to a wonderful five year old little boy named Tyrus. Before Tyrus was born I thought a lot about what I wanted my relationship to look like with him.

I heard a quote this week that really struck a chord with me: “We are all just one circumstance away from really bad situations.” It made me think, on many levels. It’s true for me. And probably true for you. And definitely true for the birthmothers we work with. Adoption brings a child born to…