When our first baby was bundled up and handed to us, I held her tight and knew our love would protect her from any racial bias or pain. I was living in a delusional dream world. Our love was important and gave her a safe harbor to come home to when the open sea rocked…

There isn’t one! There aren’t guidelines for learning how to instill pride in a child who has been adopted transracially. When my husband, Mat, and I first looked into adoption, we were laser focused on how to adopt a baby rather than how to parent a child who would create our transracial family. We read…