Find Hope in Adoption:
When Both Birth Mothers and Adoptive Parents Feel Powerless
We hear our hopeful adoptive parents.
You feel powerless.
We hear our courageous birth mothers.
You feel powerless.
- You feel the birth mother holds all the control in your adoption journey.
- You feel this emotional and financial investment is draining your resources and hope.
- You feel confused and heartbroken when adoption matches fall through unexpectedly.
- You don’t want your heart shattered again by another failed adoption.
- You feel completely powerless in the adoption process.
- You feel you aren’t in a position to parent, despite your deep love for your baby.
- You feel that once you sign those relinquishment papers, you’ll lose all control over future communication with your precious child.
- You feel emotionally exhausted and physically drained from this life-changing decision.
- You don’t want your heart broken by losing connection with your child forever.
- You feel absolutely powerless in shaping your child’s future.
Birth Parents and Adoptive Parents: Recognize Your Profound Common Ground
- You both feel powerless in the adoption process
- You both desperately want what’s best for this precious baby
- You both fear making the wrong decision
- You both need hope and support during this vulnerable time
Expect these shared feelings. They’re normal in ethical adoption practices.
Dear Birth Mothers,
we're committed to empowering you with choices and control.
Dear Adoptive Parents,
we recognize your fertility struggles and adoption challenges have been heartbreaking.
- We work tirelessly to find adoptive families that align with your values and hopes.
- You are the only person who can create a parenting plan that feels right for your child.
- You choose which loving adoptive parents will raise your baby.
- You decide the level of openness in your ongoing relationship – from letters and photos to visits.
- You maintain agency throughout your adoption journey.
- Please, even in your powerlessness, witness the incredible sacrifice birth mothers make daily.
- These are monumental sacrifices – physically carrying and birthing a child, then choosing adoption.
- Birth mother support and understanding creates stronger adoption relationships. Find hope in adoption. Find hope in these relationships.
How Can I Find Hope in Adoption
One of our team members has grown to deeply love a brave young birth mother. As this struggling teenager held her newborn baby and wrestled with her adoption decision, she sent this raw, emotional text:
“How can I have faith during this adoption process? It’s like my emotions are getting in the way of the best decision I can make for him.
It’s so emotionally devastating for me to place him for adoption, but I know it’s best for his future. How did other birth moms find the strength to go through with it? This is so incredibly hard, but I know it’s right.”
We hear you. We see your courage. We honor your love.
Adoptive parents, please hear the birth mothers.
Open adoption relationships built on mutual respect create the healthiest outcomes for everyone – especially the children at the center of these life-changing decisions.