Recent Placement–“So you’ve decided to give the baby up?”

Give up your baby

“So you’ve decided to give the baby up?”

The hospital employee’s tone was scornful. 

The disapproval from a random stranger did not intimidate Tara.

“She obviously didn’t know me, or my situation, or how wonderful adoption can be,” said an exhausted Tara. 

The young woman had just endured an emergency C-section and watched the hospital staff whisk the premature infant into the NICU.

Because the baby came early, there was not a potential adoptive family in the hospital. Tara wanted them there.

Several weeks earlier, the young woman had decided “giving my baby up is the right choice for me.”

Michelle, a case manager from Heart to Heart Adoptions, smiled and shook her head. “Don’t say ‘give up my baby.’ You are not giving up. You are so brave.”

Tara’s youth included watching her father die and then enduring the consequences of her own mother’s struggles as a single parent. This struggle forced Tara into the foster system and eventual placement in another family.

“My adoptive mother was a little older than most moms, and she had her own biological kids,”

Tara explained. “She never once referred to me as her adopted daughter. I was always her daughter. I felt like I belonged to someone. I felt loved by her. I felt love from her.”

Having a positive experience with adoption was one of the reasons she was excited to move forward with placing her child.

“Tara is awesome,” Michelle said.

“She is such a hard worker. I would call her, and she would be walking in the rain to work at Subway. She was so committed to providing for herself and staying self-sufficient.”

Besides her day job, the young woman spent nights at a halfway house where she supervised the night routine of a dozen girls. Even before going into preterm labor, Tara was starting to cut back on her hours. She wanted the best for the baby she was carrying.

Give my baby up
Give my baby up

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“My life and the lack of a father are not what is best for this baby right now,” Tara said.

“I did feel judged by the hospital worker, but she doesn’t make me doubt my decision.

"I have seen adoption from many sides. This is what is best for the baby and me.”