Choosing an adoptive family
Finding the Right Family
You don’t have to rush this
If you decide to explore adoption, choosing an adoptive family is one of the most personal parts of the process.
You can look through family profiles, learn about their values, see how they live, and imagine what kind of life they might offer your child. We are here to help match you with the perfect family.
Can I Choose the Adoptive Family for My Baby?
Yes. If you choose adoption, you can review adoptive family profiles and select the family that feels right for you and your child. You decide what qualities are most important and how involved you would like to be in the matching process.
Some birth parents prioritize values, faith, location, lifestyle, or family structure. Others focus on personality, communication, and shared goals. There is no perfect family—only the family that feels like the best fit for your adoption plan.
What Should I Look For in an Adoptive Family?
When you’re looking through profiles, you might notice different things stand out. Some women focus on values or faith. Others think about lifestyle, extended family, or how open the family hopes the relationship will be.
You might ask yourself:
- Do I feel comfortable when I read their story?
- Do I see qualities that matter to me?
- Can I picture them loving and caring for my child?
There isn’t one “right” answer. What matters most is that you feel respected and heard.
Our team can help you talk through what’s important to you — even if you’re still figuring that out.
ADOPTIVE FAMILY PROFILES
What Information Can I Learn About an Adoptive Family?
Adoptive family profiles help you learn about a family’s lifestyle, values, relationships, and hopes for adoption. You can review profiles at your own pace and focus on the qualities that matter most to you.
Photos & Videos
View family photos and videos to get a sense of daily life, traditions, and personalities.
Values & Parenting Goals
Learn what matters most to a family and how they hope to raise and support a child.
Family & Relationships
See information about parents, children, extended family members, and support systems.
Lifestyle & Interests
Explore hobbies, careers, routines, travel, faith, education, and everyday life.
Can I Talk With an Adoptive Family?
Yes. Many birth parents choose to speak with prospective adoptive families before making a decision. Phone calls, video meetings, and secure online communication can help everyone get to know one another and determine whether the match feels right.
Some families begin by exchanging messages through Heart to Heart’s secure Hearts Connect platform before moving to phone or video conversations. This allows communication to happen at a comfortable pace while maintaining privacy and support throughout the process.
- Secure Messaging
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- Phone Conversations
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- Video Meetings
CHOOSING AN ADOPTIVE FAMILY FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions About Choosing an Adoptive Family
Can I choose the adoptive family for my baby?
Yes. If you choose adoption, you can review adoptive family profiles and select the family that feels right for you and your child. You decide which qualities matter most and who you would like to consider.
What information will I see in an adoptive family profile?
Most adoptive family profiles include photos, videos, information about family life, parenting goals, values, careers, hobbies, relationships, and reasons for pursuing adoption.
Can I talk to an adoptive family before making a decision?
Yes. Many birth parents choose to communicate with prospective adoptive families through messages, phone calls, video meetings, or other agreed-upon methods before deciding whether a family is the right fit.
Do I have to choose a family right away?
No. There is no requirement to select a family immediately. You can take time to review profiles, ask questions, and consider your options before making any decisions.
Can I choose an adoptive family from another state?
Yes. Many birth parents choose families who live in different states. Heart to Heart works with families nationwide and can help coordinate communication and the adoption process regardless of location.
What if I change my mind about a family?
If a family does not feel like the right match, you can continue reviewing other profiles. The goal is to find a family you feel comfortable with and confident about.
What if I want an open adoption?
You can discuss your preferences for future communication before placement. Many birth parents and adoptive families agree on updates, photos, messages, phone calls, or other forms of ongoing contact.
Can I meet the adoptive family in person?
In many situations, yes. Some birth parents choose to meet prospective adoptive families before placement, while others prefer phone calls or video conversations. Your adoption specialist can help arrange communication that feels comfortable for everyone involved.
What if I don't know what kind of family I'm looking for?
That’s completely okay. Many birth parents begin the process without a specific idea of what they want. Your adoption specialist can help you identify the qualities and values that matter most to you.
Do I have to choose adoption to look at family profiles?
No. Reviewing family profiles does not commit you to adoption. Many women explore profiles as part of gathering information and learning about their options.
