What Is Delaying Your Return Home?
Understanding the ICPC Process in Adoption
You finally got the call to pick up your baby.
After an emotional few days, you meet this new little person and feel incredible love.
You have your baby.
You love this little person.
But legally, you can’t go home.
Now stuck far from home, you get up every morning wondering if today is the day you will get another important call–the call that says ICPC has cleared, and you can go home.
At Heart to Heart Adoptions, we’ve been privileged to help women and adoptive families navigate the adoption process for over 25 years.
Adhering to ICPC is critical to ensuring every adoption is legally sound and focuses on the child’s best interests.
What is ICPC?
The ICPC stands for the Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children, an agreement among all 50 states, the District of Columbia, and the U.S. Virgin Islands. This compact ensures that children born in one state but will be moved to another state are protected and provided with the same safeguards as children placed within their home state.
The sending state where the child was born reviews the home study and all the paperwork involved in the adoption. Once a judge has approved the file, the family, and the situation, the file gets sent to the “receiving” state, where the movement of the child needs to be approved.
Consider that ICPC used to deal with hard copy files that had to be photocopied and mailed, usually in an expensive one-day delivery. Now, we can send this information online, which does help expedite the procedure.
ICPC originated in response to historical practices where convenience was prioritized over the welfare of children.
Why ICPC is Essential.
The standards set by the ICPC are designed to ensure that:
The standards set by the ICPC are designed to ensure that:
- The adoptive family is thoroughly vetted and approved by their home state.
- The child’s welfare is prioritized during and after the placement.
- All legal processes are correctly followed in both the child’s birth state and the adoptive family’s home state.
The implementation of these safeguards is why adoptive parents must remain in the child’s birth state until both states are in agreement that the placement is in the best interest of the child.
Variations Between States
The ICPC process can vary widely by state, leading to different timelines and complexities:
- Quick Approvals: Some states are efficient, approving paperwork within 24 hours.
- Lengthy Delays: Other states may take days or even weeks, often due to complex procedures or a high volume of cases.
- Unique Requirements: California, for example, has counties with differing ICPC protocols, adding another layer of complexity.
- Privatization: In some states, private agencies handle parts of the ICPC process, which can either streamline or slow approvals depending on the circumstances.
At Heart to Heart Adoptions, we understand that waiting can be challenging, especially for parents eager to bring their child home.
The Waiting Period: A Time for Patience and Trust
It’s natural to feel anxious during this waiting period. You’ve met the birth mother and often the birth father, and you’ve shared profound moments at the hospital. You’re ready to begin your new life together. Yet, the timeline is out of your hands. Take the time to hold this new little human. Learn the child’s preferences. Stare into the infant’s eyes. These are moments you’ll never be able to replace.
Everyone on our staff works hard to file promptly and follow up with state offices to ensure everything moves forward. However, some states’ processes are beyond our control. While we advocate for you, we must also tread carefully. Pushing too hard could potentially delay the process further.
Our Advice: Trust the Process
We urge you to remain patient and trust the system, knowing it was created with your child’s best interests at heart. Though the wait may feel long, it’s a small moment in the lifelong journey of parenthood.
Orphan Train
Begging. Starving. Homeless.
Children wandered the streets of New York City in 1880. Concerned about their horrible living conditions and lack of future potential, Minister Charles Loring Brace proposed that orphans and indigent children be sent to families in the West who needed farm help.
To this end, he dressed the first 35 children in new clothes and put them on a train headed west. Flyers preceded the arrival of the “Orphan Trains.” Families gathered at stations for the scheduled stops. Over a 75-year period, nearly 200,000 children were moved.
Many of these children found loving homes and futures. Other children didn’t escape life’s tragedies. Instead, they experienced horrible neglect or exploitation.
Orphan trains might be the reason you, as an adoptive parent, are far away from home waiting to take your baby home.
The ICPC was established to prevent such injustices. It focuses on protecting children during out-of-state placements and ensuring their needs come first.
